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A journey into my messy life, mind, and kitchen.

Domestic Camp

Confession time: I have never been much of a cook.  I grew up watching and helping my mom cook so I picked up some basic skills but, my timing has always been off.  I never plan things properly.  I enjoy making things for people but I really lack confidence.  In the eleven years we have been together Thomas can sadly count the number of meals I have made for him on two hands. He cooks ALL of our meals. Tragic, I know.  I am awful.  Thank goodness I am cute . 😉

Food was so important to Mom that in the last year I tried to fill the void, to become her hands when she was unable to stand in the kitchen and cook.  She would pin recipes or send them to me.  She would always say, “we should try this”.  Then she would laugh and say, “I guess by ‘we’ I actually mean you, you should try this”.  And, so, for my Mother, try I did.  It started pretty innocently, learning just how she liked her (very) softly scrambled egg and then it morphed into some soups and casseroles, then eventually became cooking the entire Thanksgiving meal.   My sweet husband called this time at Mom’s house “domestic camp”. And, now here I am.  So, bare with me.

If you are going to read my blog (which I hope you do) you should understand a few things:

1)This blog will not teach you how to cook…like I mentioned I am no expert.

2)I will be taking pictures of real home cooked food with awful lighting and an iphone so if this upsets you click away now.

3)I am going to be real with you…the hard truths(like the fact I forgot to shower today), the sink overflowing with dirty dishes, the dog eating off my kitchen floor, and my heart bursting with love and sadness.

4)Not all the pins with be food related so if you wanna see how badly I can mess a “no sew” craft or rock a scarf tie then please keep reading.

5)There will be typos, misspellings, made up words, over zealous use of comas, and all sort of grammatical craziness.  This is bound to make some of you feel all out of whack.  Well, too bad.  This is my truth as unorganized and nutty as it may be.

6)I will be getting assistance from my family and friends sending them pins to complete (especially if I feel Mom pinned with them in mind) they will be guest writing. They are lovely, you will like them.

All I ask of you is that you cast no judgement.  If you want to be on this journey with me then I want you here.

So here goes nothing…or everything



  1. You really are cute

    • lovelightandloss

      March 20, 2016 at 11:15 am

      Thanks, even more so when I shower and change out of pjs. You are pretty darn cute too. Good genes.

  2. Jaryd is the cook in our relationship too. We make up for it in a couple of ways. 🙂 Can’t wait to read more!

  3. ❤️❤️❤️

  4. Meagan Guilbeau

    March 20, 2016 at 12:32 pm

    I love this and yes I will be on this journey with u every step of the way cousin!

  5. Hannah Sieveking

    March 20, 2016 at 1:17 pm

    Following. Love this, Blake. Great way to honor your mother and heal your heart. There is no other love like that of a mother, and to lose them is to lose the one person in the world who loved you more than anyone else ever could or ever will. It’s a heavy thing to realize. But it’s also a glorious thing to realize – that someone loved you that much.

    • lovelightandloss

      March 20, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      Thank you Hannah, this means a lot coming from you. I am very humbled hearing from people who have also suffered this huge loss. Writing, cooking, and sharing is proving to be very therapeutic. <3

  6. So ready to begin

  7. I lost my mother when I was about your age almost
    35 years ago. Very quickly without chances to say goodbye. Many adventures later, I never cook a meal, especially a Holiday meal, without her sitting on my shoulder measuring the ingredients. Love to you and all of your family.

    • lovelightandloss

      March 20, 2016 at 7:40 pm

      Thank you for sharing that. I feel Mom all around when in a kitchen, a theatre, or surrounded by family. Love you.

  8. ME: “What is [groom’s] favorite thing [bride] cook for him?”
    THOMAS: “things you have to put together (e.g. burrito, sandwich, etc)”

  9. You are an inspiration, Blake!

  10. Don’t give up…cooking makes happiness!

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